I have a psychologist friend named Don Woods and Genius Network® member who helps people remove trauma. He said something I thought was profound: “If you understood the Atmospheric Conditions of somebody’s life, it makes sense why they are the way they are.”
If you look at anyone in your world who is going off the rails, or is self-destructive, their behaviors would make sense if you understood their Atmospheric Conditions. It doesn’t give them an excuse for being abusive or to do bad things, but it gives you understanding.
The great thing is we can actually change the Atmospheric Conditions. As a child, you may not have a lot of control. As an adult, when you get to a certain level of development, you can make better decisions. You can take responsibility. You can manage it. The Atmospheric Conditions are all about Connection.
When you want to connect with anyone, ask this simple question first: “How can I help?” Connecting requires a couple things, such as: asking, courage, and not coming across as an opportunist who only cares about themselves.
People sometimes have trouble connecting because they are SO focused on what THEY want.
It never occurs to them to ask: “What does the OTHER PERSON want?” Instead, ask: What’s in it for THEM? Why should the person you’re trying to connect with care about you UNLESS you show up with a reason that should make them care? Your Opportunities are important to you. The way you see the world is important to you. But that doesn’t mean anyone should care about what is important to you, especially if they don’t know you. No matter who someone is, there is likely an area of their Life where they are completely broken and lost.
The façade of someone being “important” or “special” goes away when you’re sitting with a billionaire, or a famous athlete, musician, or politician that has an area of their life where they are not only messed up, but doing things that would publicly be perceived of as “bad”… AND they are hurting themselves (and sometimes other people). This is the type of experience that gives you a whole other perspective on humanity. What helps you to connect is the ability to identify suffering in other people, and to ask yourself: “How can I help reduce or remove that suffering?”
by Joe Polish
Founder of Genius Network
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